Hello and welcome to the sixty third and final bulletin! 
 
Unfortunately, this is going to be the final bulletin that I'll be writing for WISH, I have enjoyed publishing them over lockdown and having conversations with many of you with your suggestions and comments. 
 
Skill of the week - Doing Things For (and by) yourself 
 
What's the best way to do things for yourself? 
Sometimes we can find ourselves simply managing our lives, our time and our responsibilities, instead of actually living. Or, we put other people’s lives in front of our own, ensuring their needs are met before your own. Well, it’s time to start doing things for yourself; including making your happiness the priority and being kinder to yourself. 
 
It’s time to start giving your energy to the right people and the right goals, both in your career and in your personal life. Accept the things that can’t be changed and work towards changing the things that can. Appreciate the beauty of small moments, the things that you have, how rich your life is and enjoy the adventure the world creates for you. 
 
Here are 30 things, written by a Wellbeing Writer, Elyse Santilli, you can start doing for yourself, that you can use to change your life and your perspective: 
 
1. Create a vision for your life. Get clear on your purpose, what drives you and what you desire for your love life, relationships, career, finances, lifestyle, wellbeing and personal growth. 
 
2. Meditate daily. Your investment of a few minutes of time will come back to you tenfold in the form of increased insight, inner peace, creativity and compassion. 
 
3. Treat your body well. It is your home on this earth so nourish it with water, whole foods, walks, yoga and exercise. 
 
4. Listen to your heart and intuition. Your heart is the key to your life purpose, and it will provide you with wisdom and guidance that your thinking mind cannot comprehend. 
 
5. Mix up your routine. Don't live the same year 85 times and call it a life -- try a new route, coffee shop, walking trail, hobby, activity, city or career. 
 
6. Get clear on your values. Your deep underlying motivators like freedom, creativity, wisdom, abundance, vitality, connection and authenticity -- and start basing your life around them. 
 
7. Make time for joy and pleasure. Write a list of all the things that make you come alive and do them weekly -- the whole world will benefit from your light and joy. 
 
8. Pause throughout the day. Take your attention away from the circling thoughts and worries in your head and connect with the sights, sounds, smells, textures, and beauty of life surrounding you. 
 
9. Get comfortable being you. You were made by the Universe for a reason, and you are one-of-a-kind. Own who you are. 
 
10. Create rituals. Whether it's a morning prayer, evening book or weekend brunch, rituals can help you incorporate your values into your life.  
11. Give thanks. Gratitude is magic -- it makes what you have enough and attracts more goodness into your life. You are blessed to be alive. 
 
12. Go after your dreams. Give things a go -- you miss 100 percent of the shots you don't take. You are more likely to regret not trying than trying. What is life for if not for living fully? 
 
13. Spend time with good company. We are heavily influenced by those around us, so surround yourself with dreamers, doers, believers, thinkers and those who bring out your greatness. 
 
14. Love and accept yourself. When you improve your relationship with yourself, your other relationships and your life improve naturally. Everything starts to work. 
 
15. Forgive others. As the Chinese proverb says: "Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned." Forgive others and set yourself free. 
 
16. Fill yourself up. Understand that other people are not responsible for your happiness, self-worth and fulfillment -- you are. Start filling yourself up with love and whatever else you need. 
 
17. Plan out your week. Know your top goals and values and plan your week around them -- otherwise you will get swept away by the pull of the modern world.  
 
18. Reflect on your week. 
Give thanks for everything wonderful that happened and acknowledge what isn't working so well so you can fix it instead of repeating the same patterns.  
 
19. Celebrate everything. Small wins build your confidence and build you up to have more success -- look for more ways to celebrate yourself and your loved ones.  
 
20. Build a connection with your soul. Get in touch with your essence, your inner being -- the part of you that exists beyond your thoughts, emotions, titles, roles and labels.  
 
21. Allow your feelings to flow through you. When a strong negative emotion arises, observe the feeling in your body without judgment, knowing it will pass -- rather than feeding it with stories in your mind, or storing it deep in your heart.  
 
22. Spend time in nature. Nature can remind you of the natural beauty, intelligence and balance of the Universe -- it also gets you back in touch with your soul.  
 
23. Let go of the past. It's not happening here and now -- it's only in your mind. When you continue to relive the past, you rob yourself of the peace, beauty and opportunity available to you in the present moment.  
 
24. See the lesson. Sometimes our challenges are our biggest teachers -- pause and see if your challenges contain a sacred message showing you where you are stuck or need to grow. 
 
25. De-clutter your space. Our possessions don't just weigh us down physically -- they weigh us down energetically and psychologically. By clearing space in your life you are symbolically making room for the new.  
 
26. Check in with yourself regularly. How often do you ask yourself how you are feeling? Check in with your inner child by placing your hand on your heart and asking what it needs from you right now. You may be surprised by the answer.  
 
27. Breathe deeply. Many of us are in such a rush we forget to breathe properly. Our body becomes tight and our energy becomes stale. Pause throughout the day to take a few deep breaths from your belly.  
 
28. Simplify your life. If you are feeling overwhelmed, track what you do in a typical week and see what you can remove -- perhaps too much television, worrying or social media scrolling isn't serving your highest good.  
 
29. Do one thing each week that scares you. Your current comfort zone is just the last place you set up camp on your journey -- by doing something that scares you each week, you are constantly growing beyond your self-imposed limitations.  
 
30. Value your happiness. We are so quick to give away our happiness over trivial matters or things outside of our control, when it is one of the most valuable things we possess. Value your happiness by remembering the mantra: "I could see peace instead of this" every time you are tempted to get caught up in drama. 
 
Interview / Application question of the week. Give an example of when you disagreed with a senior staff member and how did this work out? 
 
So, first things first - it is not a good idea to use this to complain about your previous employer, in fact that is a terrible idea! Giving the recruiter the impression that you are a know-all, critical and argumentative trouble-maker, will not land you that new role. 
 
Choose an example where you made a positive contribution with a measurable result, but not one where you destroyed the relationship in the process. Telling your story with humility but confidence will yield far better results than descending into a wild rant about the unfairness of it all. Spend some time preparing for this kind of question, it will be really worthwhile. 
 
If you don't have any examples, just think of how you would handle a disagreement and state that. There is nothing wrong with disagreeing with your employer. However, considering whether it is a) worth mentioning your disagreement, after all it may be a small issue, and b) are you sure you have an alternative that is better....? If you do, go ahead and positively and politely suggest it.  
 
Training opportunities with WEA 
 
WEA have a large and diverse array of very good value (mostly free, if on benefits). Below are three examples but click here and have a search for yourself. There are plenty that aren't work-related, learn a new skill, develop a new interest or simply learn for the sake of learning.  
 
Work Place Pressure - Looking after me. View details 
We will look at common work place pressures that cause us stress and we will explore different strategies that can be used to deal with them. In this supportive group we will seek to identify specific situations that 'stress you out', evaluating our strategies to see which one best suits a situation. Stress in the workplace is a familiar issue for many. It can have a negative impact on both your mental and physical health. Join this group and spend some time thinking about where your stress in the work place comes from and what you could do to move forward positively. 
 
Dates: 08/10/2021 - 22/10/2021. Duration: 3 sessions. Start Time: Fri 10:00. Location: Online 
Tutor: Tracey Broomfield. Reference: C3128622 
Availability: places available. Status: Enrolling (online) 
Fee: £14.40. Support: Find out if you can attend for free 
 
Employment - Positive & Effective Communication. View details 
Do you believe your communication skills could be better? Most of us would answer yes to this question but what can we do? It isn't just about talking, it's about listening, evaluating and responding appropriately, and that's just the verbal part! We will also explore communication and the written word, how it differs depending on what we hope to achieve. Join this supportive group and take some time to learn tips about communicating more effectively. 
 
Dates: 17/09/2021 - 01/10/2021. Duration: 3 sessions. Start Time: Fri 10:00. Location: Online 
Tutor: Tracey Broomfield. Reference: C3128621 
Availability: places available. Status: Enrolling (online) 
Fee: £14.40. Support: Find out if you can attend for free 
 
Skill Building - Microsoft Word & Powerpoint. View details 
Would you like to learn how to create professional looking documents with images, tables and attractive font choices? How about designing effective and eye catching presentation slides which grab and keep peoples attention? Build some of the basic skills needed to use Word and PowerPoint effectively. 
 
Dates: 13/09/2021 - 18/10/2021. Duration: 6 sessions. Start Time: Mon 10:00. Location: Online 
Tutor: Tracey Broomfield. Reference: C3128620 
Availability: places available. Status: Enrolling (online) 
Fee: £28.80. Support: Find out if you can attend for free 
 
Wellbeing self-assessment 
 
Horsham wellbeing have developed an online self-assessment questionnaire, to help you establish what kind of local services might be suitable and available to you. Click here to give it a go.  
 
Local new vacancies 
here are the links for the most recent uploads - click here 
 
And finally, it has been a pleasure and an honour working for Horsham District Council and with you all. Some of you I have got to know very well, some of you I have only met or spoken with once or twice. I wish you all the best of luck and please do get in touch with the Horsham employment support team. All the information you need can be accessed via this link - horsham employment support 
 
Bye for now, and I hope to bump in to some of you again.  
 
Richard 
 
 
 
 
 
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